Why I believe in AA


HI, my name is Rick, and I am a success seeker. Hi Rick😊.

Success is more than an outcome. While outcome is critical, the process of achieving it is the greater determinant of sustainability. And that leads me to AA. My AA is ATTITUDE + ACTION = SUCCESSFUL OUTCOME.

One without the other is a recipe we see all around us. Put a great attitude on a procrastinator and what do you get? Rick the day dreamer who never achieved anything of value. Take a type A, action oriented, Rick with a lousy attitude and you get: sarcastic Rick who disrupts every conversation.

Attitude is how you view the world and how you react to life. Live long enough and you will experience the full circle of emotions.  The highs are higher and the lows are deeper than you expect. Life and God are no respecter of individuals. We all get our share. Attitude is really the difference maker in your life’s trajectory. You get to choose the way you respond to events, peoples, and circumstances. Eeyore or Tigger. You choose. And the best line that illustrates this point is from John Wooden, “ Things turn our best for the people who make the best of how things turn out.” Wish I had thought of that line! Glad he shared it though!

While Attitude determines your trajectory, Action determines the speed. Put them together, and you get a sort of success torque. Combine a great attitude with an action mindset, and it’s like running the Pike’s Peak ascent with an oxygen tank. When your journey takes you above the proverbial tree line to rocky area close to the top, you are going to need both to finish.

So how do you add AA to your journey? Like the other AA, I believe you start by recognizing that you can’t do this on your own and seek some higher power’s help. For me, that means my Outback Men’s group, my friend Chris, and early morning prayer and uplifting devotional reading. These get my Attitude “A” back on track. Combining that with some daily goal setting, planning tomorrow at the end of each day, and Sunday calendar planning keeps me in gear.

And the most important of all these is not mentioned yet: Consistency. Whatever works for you will work only as long as you work it. So pick a few and get started on your road to a SUCCESSFUL OUTCOME.

Next week we will dive a little deeper into Attitude.

The best is ahead.

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Don’t Ditch It, Switch It!


 

When it comes to attitudes, most of us have a hard time staying on the positive side of the road. The number of days I started with a Norman Vincent Peale attitude that switched to Eeyore by 10 am are too many to count. What happened?

Triggers (not Tiggers😊)! Triggers are well developed responses to certain events that almost automatically push us off the positive road and into an emotional ditch. These responses have developed over time and represent large channels in the brain synapse. And every time we allow these triggers to take the same response, the ditch gets wider and deeper.

In reality, when we are driving a car and see a ditch, we develop a plan to avoid the ditch. In our subconscious mind we don’t see the ditch. What is required is a mental game plan that we “consciously” implement.

So how do we develop a game plan to keep us on the Peale highway?

  1. Identify the triggers – This takes time but is absolutely the key step. When you find yourself exhibiting negative behaviors or thoughts – SAY OUT LOUD: “Trigger”. This will turn off the trigger and let your conscious mind take control of your mental steering wheel. Don’t worry. After a while you will laugh when you say it, and your companions will stop staring at you😊!
  2. Identify the behavior/thought (the ditch) you fall into. Start a notebook of triggers with a page that says I react this way when this happens( the trigger). Get a big notebook because you will be amazed at the number of trigger reactions you will self-identify.
  3. Identify and implement Plan A – When I feel the trigger, I do ____________ to avoid the ditch.
  4. Identify and implement Plan B – When I miss the trigger (and you will) and fall into the ditch, I do____________ to get out of the ditch
  5. Determine an immediate reward for executing Plan A or Plan B (I give myself a Peale coin and 5 coins = a quart of Gelato Mint Chocolate Chip, etc.)
  6. Document successes in a retrievable file.
  7. Review your file weekly.

Attitude is a choice, and behavior is the outcome of your choice. While we cannot erase our past behaviors (ditches and roads), we can make sure we spend more time widening and repaving the road instead of digging a bigger ditch.

So the next time you meet a trigger, don’t ditch it, switch it.

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It’s not what I do, It’s what I do………. that counts.


How would you complete the following: “ It’s not what I do, it’s what I do for ______________ that counts.”

As a consultant, I discovered that most of my friends have no idea what I do. Most of them have clearly defined jobs or own their business. They find it easy to discuss their jobs or companies when we get together. I could tell you what each of them do, but I doubt many of them could tell you what I do with any degree of certainty. Why?

My practice focuses on helping small businesses grow in areas of teamwork, strategy, and culture. Most of my work is ad hoc, situational driven. Sometimes I facilitate programs or put on workshops. Occasionally I give a speech. I assess situations and perceived problems and make recommendations. When I am fortunate, I stay involved through the implementation phase. And after the engagement, I have wondered what I really did for my client or my class?

The answer is at the heart of a concept I have come to embrace, Servant Leadership. Coined by Robert Greenleaf [¹] in the 1970’s while working at AT&T, Servant Leadership embraces serving others first as the model for leadership. Visually, it flips the organizational pyramid with the customer on top and the CEO on the bottom.
The model runs throughout Gallup’s 12 Elements of Employee Engagement [²] and has it’s underpinning in the Bible. “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you ,” [³] and “As you sow, so shall you reap .” [4] When you serve others first, you sow trust, and what you get is a multiple of what you sow.

So when asked what I do, I usually answer, “It’s not what I do, it’s what I do for others that counts.”


[1] Greenleaf, R. K. (2002). Servant leadership: A journey into the nature of legitimate power and greatness (25th anniversary ed.). New York:

[2] Gallup, 12 Elements

[3] Matthew 7:12; Luke 6:31

[4] Galatians 6:9

 

 

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Take Your Own Advice


This may sound heretical coming from a personal business coach. Take your own advice. 
My coaching clients share a common desire. They want to improve, so that they can move to the next “higher” level of their career or life. They are frustrated enough, or wise enough, to seek the counsel of another. Our goals center around identifying and changing behaviors that lead to outcomes we agree are desirable. Agreement is more essential than the goal. I have learned that the hard way.
One of the most powerful tools I use is to ask the person to address an issue from their desired outcome’s perspective: The If/Then approach. ” If you were president/customer/competitor what would you do/recommend/advise?” What always surfaces is an answer that already existed in the mind of the person. Usually individuals seeking coaching have seen the path and, for whatever reason, found it difficult to stay on. Coaching is best when the student discovers they had the answer all along. Call it coaching as sculpture.
Knowing that makes my confession more embarrassing: I have a hard time taking my own advice. I am constantly amazed how easy offering others advice on how best to move forward comes to me, yet how easy it for me to  apply the same advice to myself. I facilitate a course on how to get a “stuck” small business to their next level. Love  the opportunity and receive very positive feedback. Ironically,  I seem perfectly content to not move my coaching business to the next level. I know what to do and continually find ways to avoid/sidestep/excuse the actions I need to take to achieve that next level of growth.
Jim Collins in his classic book, Good To Great, suggests leaders always Confront the Brutal Reality. This blog is my taking Jim’s advice. Brian Tracy suggested years ago that writing anything down increases the likelihood of success by 200%. So my next step will be to write down my goals, write down my challenges, write down whose help I need, and then craft a series of actions steps I need to do each week to achieve my goal. And finally, I need to share these goals with my accountability partner (my unpaid coach:) ).
Funny, that is exactly what I facilitate and coach. “Mirror, mirror on the wall. With you, I will rise and fall. With you I will start each day, and with you I will find my way!”
The best is ahead!
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Blow Up To Go Up!


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Are you a linebacker or a balloonist? This question came to me listening to an audiobook while watching conference championship football. The book, The One Thing by Gary Keller, founder of Keller-Williams Real Estate, suggested that you need to blow up you current approach before you can  be ready to move on to the one thing that will take you to the next level. As I am listening to this, I watch Rashaad Evans blow up the Florida running back at the goal line. In typical football speak the announcer says, “Evans really blew up that play and now Florida has to go for  it on fourth down.” That’s when my thoughts and plans collided as well.

Keller suggests blowing up the habits and thinking that keep you from pursuing your dreams. And dreams take you to new heights. Balloons are something that you also have to blow up, and when you release them, they soar away to heights beyond where you can see. Furthermore, if you have taken a balloon ride, you know the wonderful sensation of soaring quietly at a height you have never known. Your perspective of your surrounding will be changed forever.

Keller’s goal is to show everyone how to live a life beyond what they currently see. He is a balloonist for your possibility. Most of us, and especially me, set our sights on just what we can  see and fear imagining what life could be if we took our dreams on a balloon ride.

Of course the answer to my opening question is both. Before soaring, you must jettison some small thinking and heavy “waste of time” habits. That requires that linebacker mentality. Yet once the self-inflicted limitations are blown up, you can blow up your possibility balloon and really soar.  And once you have that new view, going back to the old view just doesn’t cut it.

My goal this year is to BLOW UP TO GO UP. And I will start by dropping to my knees and asking my Master Linebacker to help me blow up my bad habits. Every balloon needs a name and pilot. Jesus is the Pilot of Isaiah 40:31.

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A Thanksgiving Bone to Chew On


The remains of a roasted Thanksgiving turkey on a wooden cutting board.

Thanksgiving means family around the table, too much football, and too much food. We count the blessings of family and listen to stories of what has happened this during the year for which we should be thankful.

An old friend of mine has given me pause to think about his situation this year. He suffered a stroke this year which severely impacted his 12 hour day work routine in a business he has run since college. He has three kids and his oldest has taken over running the company. His other two kids are not involved in the business and the business is his primary asset. I heard that he has gone back to smoking, and that has me concerned on several levels. If another stroke totally incapacitates him, or worse, I wonder about his plan is for business and his kids?

One of the toughest concepts to deal with in business exit planning is transferring ownership to family members. Next generation transfers account for 20% of all sales (1).  Unfortunately, leadership and business acumen are not part of the DNA code. And the next generation rarely has the capital to pay upfront like a third-party buyer.

In addition, almost all of them raise the question of fairness with the non-participating heirs. Coordinating  tax minimization strategies, like Lowest Defensible Valuations ,for insider sales with estate planning considerations and even business continuity issues, like a stroke, requires a team approach; hence the need for exit planner quarterbacking.

How do I know this? I can’t count the number of conversations with friends that turn to the inequity of family estate distributions.  Seems someone always feels that another sibling got more than the other one. When control of the “family” business is involved, the risk increases. According to the Family Business Institute, only 30% make it past the second generation, and less than 15% of businesses make it past the third generation.  This is one of the reasons many Thanksgiving conversation are filled with avoidance routines and early exits. Perhaps you’ve had one of the “conversations after the conversation” in the car on the way home.

So I hope my buddy has done some good planning with his CPA, financial planner, insurance agent, and his attorney. I pray that they all talked to each other to make sure their individual advice was coordinated.  Most importantly, I will continue to pray for and encourage him to quit smoking.

(1) 2005 PriceWaterhouseCooper survey.

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Driving Miss Entrepreneur


driving-ms-daisyDriving Miss Daisy is a wonderful movie with Hoke (Morgan Freeman) changing from a chauffeur for Miss Daisy (Jessica Tandy) to a lifetime friend and companion. Most entrepreneurs/business owners remind me of Hoke; they drive their business into creation, growth, and profitability. When it comes time to plan their exit, most business owners have a hard time becoming Miss Daisy. They need to turn over the wheel and have a hard time not doing just what is needed to achieve their nest egg goals.

In Exit Planning: The Definitive Guide, John Brown, CEO of BEI, points out the value of becoming Miss Daisy. In 30 years of helping business owners develop exit plans, Brown has identified the number one value driver most sophisticated buyers look for: Next Level Management. Without it, the value a seller seeks is discounted heavily, or no offer is even made.

Next level management refers to managers that have “been there, done that.” They have the ability to drive value to the next level of performance. They are expensive and a bargain at the same time. They cost more than the owner is used to paying, but when they improve cash flow often 100-1000% over 5 years, they more than pay for themselves. More importantly, they have the ability to raise the cash flow based purchase multiple as well.

The key to giving up the wheel is realizing that you not only arrive sooner at your financial destination but you can also see a lot more from the back seat. Time for planning and strategic development becomes available. And you arrive more refreshed.

So when you realize in your exit plan that you need to grow to the next level to retire with the financial security you deserve, think about Hoke and Miss Daisy. Giving up the wheel may be the best decision you ever make.

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